Through addiction we lose our active will, the part of us that can be fluid in the moment and know when we are about to choose a painful pattern or choice. Are you stuck right now in your life? Do you wish you were moving faster with your growth and healing? Are you still caught in painful choices that keep your addictive patterns in the forefront of your mind or guiding your decisions?
The first thing we develop is the belief that we are bad and unworthy people. We take on this belief because we are in pain. We say yes to short term relief at quite a high price; we armor ourselves. Armoring is the internal reaction to our image makers molding and sculpting that overlaps again and again. As this happens we shut off to pleasure and beauty, ours and that of others.
This creates an inner resistance to pleasure and opens us to patterns of pain.
We are attracted to pain so we feel our body, even though what we feel is pain, and we shield our emotions. We then step into the Needy Wounded and Abandoned Child and self-pity becomes our primary face of our engagements with self and others. We substitute things that are painful and cause harm to our selves because we isolate and thru self-importance and self-focus we do everything we can to hide our negative self-concepts. This cycle creates short-term pleasure and long-term pain.
This entire cycle and the inter-relationships that we create from this molding, sculpting and armoring teaches us how to create a deep, isolated self focus and we do not learn or care to learn sometimes what relationship focus is. We then cannot have deep meaningful relationships with merging energy or know cohesive energy.
We have a 12 step ceremonial process that brings into clear focus how to recognize beauty, ours and others. Every meeting uses an alchemical, time tested ceremonial experience that keys a step to our healing. These steps build on each other and open new doors of understanding of who we naturally are. Our goal is to learn how to grow our beauty and choose sobriety as our primary way to engage life. With a healthy choice of sobriety we are not limited in life and we can heal emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually and sexually. We become sacred humans making a difference in life.
ARE YOU READY TO ENGAGE IN YOUR HEALING FULLY?
Debra K Laughlin
Email: worthyandsober@gmail.com